Wednesday, February 27, 2019

A constant stream, ebbing and flowing.

The water trade. It is a constant stream, ebbing and flowing. 

I’ve spent nights in ridiculously expensive suites in some of the best hotels in the world and bug-infested little rooms (hotels can offer more kinds of bugs than just cockroaches, BTW). 
One morning I checked out of my hotel with my bank account severely overdrawn and no place to go, that night I had a nice room paid for 3 nights and was $1000 for the good.

 I’ve been ripped off. I’ve been shorted. I’ve been tipped with lots of extra money and beautiful gifts. I’ve worked in situations and at rates, most of my friends would never deign to do. I’ve worked in situations and at rates many envies

The water trade. Continually ebbing and flowing. 

I’ve had sex with soldiers, farmers, fellow adventurers, and executives. I’ve had no sex with clients — very often. Men have cried, laughed, loved with me. I’ve had days where every single client screwed me into the mattress. I have “done it for the money” because I disliked the client so much (this is very rare). I’ve fallen in love, knowing I will never see them again (this happens more often than the disliking bit). I’ve been bored, annoyed, drained, turned into a purring puddle of goo, energized, refreshed, happy. “Happy” is my most common reaction. 

The water trade. It ebbs and flows. 

I had a private incall for a while. I’ve done outcall-only lately. I often work out of my living space when on the road (hotel rooms). I have no actual home right now. I have 1 big bag, 1 purse, 1 netbook (and am now memory-stick free!). I’ve been wearing basically the same clothes/shoes for well over a year (yes, I wash). My non-work wardrobe is centered around t-shirts/shorts/flip flops. I try not to spend more than $20 on a non-work clothing item because I just care that much. 

Ebbs and flows. 

I could’ve stayed home, re-built my escort business in 2017 and made a lot of money. I know the business, I know how to do it. I watch the girls who have read my blogs, I see their success. There but for the desire to re-follow that path goes I. I've made and spent my money. I have found and lost love. I've gone to a number of places, stayed in hotel rooms and seen nothing. I’ve seen beauty of great significance to me, I carry it with me until my memory fades. I don’t take a lot of photos, considering. I’ve stopped planning my life. 

Ebb and flow. 

We are all connected. The more I learn, the simpler and more infinite everything becomes. Mizu sh bai. We are composed of over 60% water. The earth’s surface is 75% covered in water. The search for life in space begins with the search for water. We can be born in water. We quickly die without water. It is basic to our lives. Sex is just as essential. It is the very concept of life. As one of my friends puts it, every single one of us is a walking orgasm. Prostitution is as common as rain, a puddle, a river, a waterfall, an ocean. It comes in every imaginable form, some obvious and some not; some forms beautiful and some not. It is everywhere, limited only by the constraints of that situation. 

A constant stream. It ebbs and flows, carrying the blossoms floating on the surface.

Wednesday, February 20, 2019


Prohibitionists have a set of stock lies they can repeat in an article or internet comment, so here is a reference to debunk them.  This is a living page; if you don’t see a myth described here, please email me so I can add it.  It only covers factual claims; emotional arguments of the “no little girl dreams of being a prostitute” variety are covered in “Amazingly Stupid Statements”.
Jodie Foster Taxi DriverLIE:  The average age at which a woman enters prostitution is 13.
TRUTH: If this were true, there would have to be huge numbers of toddler-prostitutes to balance the many, many women who start later in life, such as to support themselves after divorce.  Even underage prostitutes start at an average of 15-16, and only 15% of teen hookers (themselves a small minority of all sex workers) enter at an age below 13.  A conservative estimate for the average age at which women enter the trade is 25.  The “average debut at 13” lie was a purposeful distortion by anti-sex crusader Melissa Farley, who misrepresented the average age of first noncommercial sexual contact (which could include kissing, petting, etc) reported by underage girls in one 1982 study as though it was the age they first reported selling sex; the actual average age at which the girls in that study began prostitution was 16.
LIE:  The average age of death for a prostitute is 34.
TRUTH: That figure was derived from a 2003 study which examined all of the reports of murdered street workers in Colorado Springs from 1967-1999, and discovered that the average age of death of those victims was 34.  In other words, nobody who wasn’t murdered was included in the figure.  It’s like using the average age of dead soldiers in a war to proclaim “the average man who joins the military dies at 21”.
LIE:  The demonstrable problems with legalization schemes in places like Nevada and the Netherlands constitute an argument in favor of criminalization.
TRUTH: The demonstrable problems with those legalization schemes constitute an argument in favor of decriminalization.  No sex worker rights organization in the world favors the Dutch or Nevada models, precisely because they do give rise to a host of problems which are prevented by treating sex work as work.
LIE:  85% of prostitutes report childhood sexual abuse.
TRUTH: The original source for this claim was a 2004 study of incarcerated street workers which actually claimed that 45% reported sexual abuse and 85% physical abuse.  Furthermore, there are serious methodological problems with the study, which is typical when biased researchers use an unrepresentative convenience sample and then extrapolate the results to a much larger population with which it does not correlate to any meaningful extent.
LIE:  “End Demand” tactics are an effective means of reducing prostitution.
TRUTH: Economic analysis demonstrates that “end demand” tactics increase the number of sales of sex, especially at the street level.
LIE:  “Human trafficking” is the world’s second most profitable criminal enterprise (or the third most, or most recently the most).
TRUTH:  This myth originated in a UNODC meeting where Kevin Bales (see “27 million” below) said, “…it’s impossible to answer that question.  If I had to guess I would say it was third…”  Ann Jordan surmised that the original source of the myth (later revealed as Bales) was probably thinking about smuggling, certainly a more credible candidate for the position.
Who victimizes sex workersLIE:  Most of the violence to which sex workers are subjected is at the hands of clients or pimps.
TRUTH: Most of the violence suffered by sex workers in regimes where the work is fully or partially criminalized is at the hands of police.
LIE:  Most or nearly all prostitutes are controlled by pimps and forced to work.
TRUTH: In nearly every stable modern society, the rate of coercion for adult prostitutes is about 2% or less, and for underage ones about 8-10%; this is roughly the same as the rate of non-sex-working women who report an abusive or controlling boyfriend or husband.
LIE:  Most prostitutes are driven to it by financial need, and 9 out of 10 prostitutes would like to exit prostitution immediately.
TRUTH: These statements are probably true, but if there is any normal job (not an elite career occupied by a tiny fraction of the population) to which they do not apply, I’d like to know what it might be.  What makes this a lie is the pretense that it applies to sex work to a higher degree than to other jobs, which it does not; one Australian study found that half of all prostitutes ranked their work as a “major source of satisfaction” in their lives, and 70% said they would definitely choose prostitution again if they had their lives to live over.
LIE:  Most prostitutes are “recruited” into the work by pimps.
TRUTH: Most adult sex workers start due to pragmatic concerns, and most underage ones either think of it on their own or are recruited by friends.
LIE:  Most prostitutes suffer symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.
TRUTH: This is another of Melissa Farley’s pet lies.  She claims to be able to diagnose PTSD with a 15-minute self-administered questionnaire, despite the fact that the National Center for PTSD states that “brief, single-item, closed-ended questions for each PTSD symptom are…no more valid for making a diagnosis than self-report measures…Proper assessment of PTSD is complex…”  In short, she is not qualified to diagnose this condition, and her method would be quackery even if she were.
LIE:  Nearly all men buy sex OR a small, pathological group of men buys sex.
TRUTH: Though a slight majority of men have paid for sex at least once in their lives, about 20% of them do it “occasionally” (several times per year) and 6% “frequently” (several times per month).
LIE:  100,000-300,000 children are “trafficked” every year in the United States.math is hard
TRUTH: That myth is a distortion of an absurd estimate from the Estes & Weiner study of 2001, which estimated that number of “children, adolescents and youth (up to 21) at risk of sexual exploitation”.  “Sex trafficking” was the least prevalent form of “exploitation” in their definition; other things they classed as “exploitation” included stripping, consensual homosexual relations and merely viewing porn.  Two of the so-called “risk factors” were access to a car and proximity to the Canadian or Mexican border.  When interviewed by reporters in 2011, Estes himself estimated the number of legal minors actually abducted into “sex slavery” as “very small…We’re talking about a few hundred people.”
LIE:  Prostitutes only do the work because they have no meaningful choices.
TRUTH: 93% of escorts say they like their work for the money, 72% for the independence and 67% for meeting people.  And a 2011 study demonstrated  that most American escorts are women with “high opportunity cost”, in other words those who have many other meaningful options.
LIE:  Prostitutes spread disease.
TRUTH: Only about 3-5% of all STIs can be attributed to either side of a sex work transaction, and the rates of infection among professionals are much (often dramatically) lower than among promiscuous amateurs.
LIE:  Prostitution destroys the self-esteem of women involved in it.
TRUTH: Though only a small fraction of street workers report an increase in self-esteem after entering harlotry, they represent less than 15% of all prostitutes.  97% of escorts in one study reported an increase in self-esteem, compared with 50% of Nevada brothel workers; another study found that 75% of escorts felt their lives had improved since starting the work, 25% reported no change and 0% said their lives were worse.  Anyone who has ever personally known any sex workers of any kind knows that if anything, their self-esteem is often too high.
LIE:  Prostitution is associated with crime.
TRUTH: Criminalization is associated with crime.  When “authorities” criminalize a consensual activity, they shouldn’t be too surprised when criminals are then attracted to it.  When’s the last time you heard of anyone arrested for bootlegging or rum-running?
LIE:  “Sex trafficking” increases when prostitution is legalized.
TRUTH: This claim is based on the deeply-flawed Neumayer, Cho and Dreher study, which failed to even define the term “trafficking” in any way which would allow statistical comparison.  The lie was further developed by a report in Der Spiegel which used figures for exploitation among illegal prostitutes to argue against legalization.  In any legalization regime, those sex workers who are defined as being outside the legal structure (i.e. still criminal) are always those at greatest risk of violence and exploitation; to the extent that “trafficking” actually exists, it is generally the illegal nature of sex work which supplies the greatest tool for coercion.  In the decriminalized structures of New Zealand and New South Wales, coercion is virtually nonexistent.
LIE:  Sex work causes rape.
TRUTH: The evidence suggests that sex work of all kinds actually decreases the rates of rape, sexual assault, divorce and several other sex-related social ills.
LIE:  The Swedish model has dramatically reduced prostitution and sex trafficking in Sweden.
TRUTH: The Swedish model cannot be shown to have had any effect on rates of prostitution at all, though it has made the lives of sex workers much more difficult and dangerous.  Norwegian studies demonstrate that their version of the law has increased sex trafficking and the number of prostitutes, and also promoted pimping.
LIE: There are 27,000,000 people enslaved in the world today.trafficking estimate comparison
TRUTH: That number was developed by a “trafficking” fanatic named Kevin Bales using media reports multiplied by arbitrary numbers of his own devising; the more the hysteria, the higher the number of articles and thus the higher Bales’ number grows.  “Trafficking” estimates are all over the map; the official UNODC estimate is less than a tenth as much (2.4 million), and even with vague, loose and ever-expanding definitions of “trafficking” the office has evidence for only about 40,000 in the entire world.
LIE:  A very large fraction of sex workers are below 18.
TRUTH: In legal forms of sex work, virtually none are; in illegal forms the fraction is still very small.  Only about 3.5 % of prostitutes in Western countries are under 18.

Tuesday, February 12, 2019

New to the game? Or simply slow?

Treat a whore like a lady and a lady like a whore.  –  Wilson Mizner
A little advice on dealing with professionals, and I would like to talk about that subject at length today.  There are a number of essays and lists of “dos and don’ts” for escort clients available on the internet, but I don’t think it hurts to add another one because it gives a broader view of what different working girls consider important.  This is not a list of my personal pet peeves, but rather commonsense advice and warnings against behaviors I know annoy most whores rather than those which just annoy me in particular.
Don’t ask rude, stupid, pointless or prying questions, or those to which you don’t really want to know the answer.
This could almost be a column by itself; day after day we’re asked the same questions which one would think men would have better sense than to ask, but obviously don’t.  My own pet peeve is, “Are you clean?”  Now, think about this for a minute; do you honestly think an expensive call girl won’t be?  And if you’re dealing with a streetwalker, do you honestly think she’ll tell you the truth if she isn’t?  Just keep your eyes open and be as scrupulous as we are with condoms and you won’t have to waste your time with this rude and pointless question.  Then there’s, “What’s your real name?”  If she wanted you to have it, don’t you think she would’ve given it to you?  Again, both rude and pointless.
If you live in a police state where our trade is suppressed (such as the US), a number of questions fall into this category, such as the amazingly stupid, “Are you a cop?”  This derives from the myths about undercover cops (largely spread by druggies) which claim that there is some magic formula for detecting them.  Nothing could be farther from the truth; a cop can lie, cheat, misrepresent himself, bring up the subject of sex first, take his socks off, or even shag a girl to completion and still bust her, and it won’t ruin his case one atom because even if there were rules of this sort (which there aren’t), he would just perjure himself and claim he didn’t do whatever it was he wasn’t supposed to do.  If the streetwalker you’re trying to pick up claims she isn’t a cop, the statement is worth exactly what it cost her to make:  Zero.  Another such question is, “Is this legal?”  How the hell is the girl supposed to answer that?  I mean really!  “No, I’m a criminal?”  All this question does is to make her uncomfortable and to cause her to wonder if she’s being taped.  An even worse (and unfortunately far more common) one is, “What do I get for my money?”  If a girl ever answers this question with anything more specific than, “You get an hour of my time,” you should suspect that you’re being taped because no experienced girl worth the money would ever say anything else.
The last category includes such questions as, “How many men have you seen today?” or “Are you married?” or “Has anyone ever hurt you?”  Maybe the real answers would turn you on, but they might also turn you off, and your escort has no way of knowing which.  You might very well think you want to know the answer, and then change your mind when you hear it.  So it’s best to avoid these kinds of questions in the first place, and if you ask something which the girl seems not to want to answer don’t press the issue.
Be clean.
Just that simple; give a professional the same respect you would give an amateur.  Take a shower, shave, brush your teeth and cut your fingernails.  Change into clean clothes and refrain from smoking in her presence unless she is also a smoker or has ashtrays available to signify it’s OK.  If you’re uncircumcised, clean the area under your foreskin thoroughly, and if you have any sort of skin condition please clean it properly and let her know what it is as soon as you disrobe.  And if you see even the slightest sign of any kind of sexually transmitted disease, please seek medical attention immediately and do not even attempt to hire a girl until your doctor pronounces you clear!
Employ normal good manners.
I know proper etiquette is less common than it used to be, but c’mon guys, this isn’t rocket science.  Just try to remember all the things Mommy taught you; ask rather than demanding, say “thank you” at the end, answer the door in at least a bathrobe, take off your hat when a woman is in the room, etc. You’ll be surprised how much of a difference it makes in your experience.
Remember that we are businesswomen and that this is our business.
You wouldn’t make a cashier have to ask for her money, and you shouldn’t make us ask either; different girls want the money handed over in different ways, but we all want it up front.  Also, you wouldn’t expect a plumber, exterminator or another professional to “hang out” with you off the clock after the job for which he was contracted was done.  Good call girls try to create an exciting illusion for you; don’t destroy it by forcing us to remind you that we’re there for the money.
Be where you say you’re going to be when you say you’re going to be there.
If you’re going to an incall, try to be on time and call if you’ll be more than five minutes late; if the girl is coming to you, don’t leave to go to the store, the ice machine, the front desk or the ATM when you expect her any minute.  You should have done those things long before; if there is a real emergency just call to tell her so she can delay arriving for the time it will take you to get back.  And if there’s a substantial delay which is your fault rather than hers, please don’t be an ass if she cuts the session a bit short; she may have other appointments and she didn’t force you to arrive half an hour later than expected.  Finally, if you get cold feet please call to cancel, and if she’s already on the way just face her like a man and pay her cancellation fee ($50 is fairly typical for a call girl); she may have turned down other appointments to keep yours, and it isn’t her fault you misplaced your balls at the last minute.
If receiving a date at your home or office, provide basic necessities.
One would think this would be obvious, but one would be wrong.  A man who would never invite a social date or a business contact to a place without furniture, running water, air conditioning or heat may think nothing of inviting a business date to such a place.  Here’s a word of advice, guys:  Next time, use the $300 to buy a bed or air conditioner or have water installed, or else find a place which already has those things.
Don’t have anyone there who isn’t participating.
You may simply want to show your friends the choice bit of tail you’re about to enjoy, but she may find it very threatening to have a door opened to a room full of guys, even if they immediately file out as soon as she arrives.  I’ve left calls (with the money) because drunk and/or obnoxious frat boys or convention attendees keep banging on the door, ringing the phone or trying to take my picture through the crack allowed before the chain stops the door, and so would any other girl with a particle of common sense or an iota of self-esteem.  Arrange your liaisons when your friends won’t be around, or if others will be there ask if it’s OK up front (as in the case of a bachelor party).  Also, I really don’t care if your son or daughter is “too young to understand”; hire your whores on weekends when you don’t have visitation, or at least find a babysitter for the time you need.  We’re not monsters without maternal instincts out of Victorian propaganda, so having a child in the next room is very uncomfortable for many of us.
Don’t try to turn her into a criminal.
If you ask her to bring drugs, she’ll probably just hang up on you because cops love to get two busts for the price of one.  And don’t ask her to tell the agency you canceled, then come to see you anyhow; not only is this dangerous for her since nobody will know where she is but also puts her job at risk because the agency will fire her the second they find out she’s stealing calls.
Keep your fingers outside of her body.
 the average professional strongly dislikes having dirty, rough, bumpy fingers forcibly inserted (often without warning or lubrication) into her vagina, anus or even mouth.  Even surgically clean fingers with nails trimmed down to the quick can be terribly uncomfortable, and once the man starts to wriggle them around violently it can become acutely painful.  If you have a fetish for this please ask if it’s OK before doing it, and abide by whatever answer you get.
Don’t even ask to go without a condom.
Even though we hear it all the time, it doesn’t mean it isn’t annoying or even infuriating.  If you want a whore to think of you as an imbecile or a fool, “Do I have to use a condom?” is the most effective way.  If you want to insult her at the same time, opt for “How much to do it without a condom?” instead.
Respect her limits.
Just because you’ve hired a girl to do a job does not make her your slave.  If she tells you she doesn’t “speak Greek”, don’t try to penetrate her anally.  If she is uncomfortable with some fetish you didn’t bother to warn her about, leave it alone.  If she doesn’t want to give you her home telephone number or let you take her picture, drop the subject.  A professional is not some naive schoolgirl you can seduce into doing something against her will; all you’re going to accomplish is annoying her and wasting the time you paid for, and if she feels threatened enough she will leave and you will be out your money with nothing to show for it.
Above all else, just apply common sense and common courtesy; scour every trace of the Madonna/whore duality and the myth of the wanton out of your mind and treat a prostitute as you would treat any other businesswoman and you can’t go very wrong.  You’ll be the kind of client professionals like to see rather than the kind we dread, and you’ll find your experience is much more rewarding and fulfilling because of it.

Wednesday, February 6, 2019

A nymphomaniac?

Far from being a problem with pejorative connotations or to see it as something distorted, has become a subject of clinical treatment called hypersexuality.
When still a desire to become a disease?
Someone must put the limit of sexual libido and frequency, and in my point of view, I do not think anyone has the power to accurately assets, we all have our time and wishes to a greater and lesser extent.
The only thing that is clear is that the protagonists of this sexual power, given its repetitions, are testosterone and estradiol.

The causes can be either psychological or organic, in the latter case for very serious causes product of brain injuries, brain, the issue would be serious, should be psychological cause is the constant quest to be appreciated, dear valued leads them to the constant need to have sex to express their emotional deprivation, which leads to frustration and incrementing the purely physical sexual desire, a vicious circle in which the addition is clearly the engine.
In short, it is a reaction to fill your lack of self-esteem and affection.

Key signs that make you see if your partner is nymphomaniac.
Notes their uncontrollable desires of sexual desire, wherever and however, even with a taste for pornography or masturbation, suspiciously and pronounced.
Usually, you feel bad and guilty after genital stimulation.
They never feel full and happy after, on the opposite, they feel a  sense of emptiness and guilt that invades them for a while and wanting to repeat to try to fill it with pleasure. 
During the time of your intimacy often show neurotic instincts, discomfort and even unhappy with things that have nothing to do with you, as the concentration does not exist for them.
Do not forget that is, nothing reflective of obsessive behavior.
For these people, sex is a way to escape their problems of loneliness, depression, and anxiety, so they not even have orgasms and hence the great interest in resuming sexual intercourse by their great dissatisfaction, on the other hand, they will never satisfied.