Tuesday, June 30, 2020

Love Is Easy, But Staying Faithful? Forget It.

“Monogamy is unrealistic. Repeat after me kids, monogamy is unrealistic.”
If you haven’t seen the movie Trainwreck yet, I won’t ruin it for you, but this line features in the first five minutes of the film. Words that not just struck a chord with me, but made absolute sense.
“Love is easy, love I can do. But fidelity is a little harder,” he said.
He’s right. Love is easy. We can fall in love over romantic meals, holidays, cozy weekends cooking, and making love on crisp white sheets. You can go from single to in a relationship in a click of a button and a joint Instagram account. Who knew photos of sunsets suddenly became fascinating when you’re in love?
Forward-wind the wedding, the baby, the home, and you’ve got a family. You love your partner and they love you. Absolutely no doubt about love. Love makes people a lot of money — from wedding planners to restaurants on Valentine’s Day to manufacturers of big cuddly teddy bears.
The love we’ve got down pat.

But being faithful? If we were a little more honest with ourselves, we would admit that this bit is pretty near impossible.
If you are married and can swear without a shadow of a doubt that you and your partner have been faithful since the beginning of time and will be till the day you both die, then good on you. I salute you and what’s your secret?
But every day we read some salacious story in some magazine about some celebrity doing the dirty on his model wife; some footballer being caught with his pants down; some politician visiting brothels. Is this really news? They’ve just been caught doing what a lot of people do — look elsewhere sometimes for a bit of extra-marital intimacy.
Here are a few things I have heard from some very lovely men over the years.
“I love my wife but we no longer have sex because she lost the urge after the menopause” or “I love my wife but we have slept in separate bedrooms for the past six years” or this one that made me really feel for the guy “I love my wife but the last time she hugged me was eight years ago when the dog died”.
These men never stop loving their wives and they will stay till death do them part — but why should they or anyone be denied the right for intimacy?
People hate it when I say this, but I truly believe if physical and emotional needs aren’t being met in a relationship, it doesn’t matter how much you love that person, you will look elsewhere.
There is a reason why there are so many brothels, massage parlours, escort agencies, and private sex workers around the world who make money, a lot of money. Supply and demand. Love is a multi-million dollar business, but so is infidelity. And don’t think it’s just men who cheat. Women do it just as much. We are just more subtle.
I had a very interesting conversation on a flight back from Singapore recently with a 50-something-year-old female government official. Women being women, we got to the gritty subject of sex just as the drinks trolley was being wheeled around.
“I love my husband but he suffers terrible depression,” she confided. “So when he goes through his long bouts, I call up my friend John for fun. No one knows and it keeps me sane.”
As long as people keep getting married, the sex industry will continue to tick along nicely.
As for me and my relationships? It’s a simple click of a button: “It’s complicated.”

Tuesday, June 16, 2020

Want A Woman Who Won’t Kiss And Tell? Then Pay Her

You want complete silence, you want to keep your private life private, we all do.. One of my favorite clients had his marriage destroyed after his affair of 8 years with his PA came to the attention of this wife. The PA was tired of him not committing to ger in a serious way and told the wife and not only that showed evidence. Not sure why she would that and I don't condemn that behavior but I know a type of lady that won't and that is a high-class escort. The thought would not even cross her mind. I often see gentlemen from extremely high profile jobs. “Gosh is that so-and-so?” I’d quite often think as I walk into some marble penthouse suite.
Now I have a few really high profiles clients and they don't want as much as I do their names on newsstands. 
Course not. I just don’t sell sex and intimacy. I sell discretion. I sell privacy. Kissing and telling are not good for business and it is certainly not what a lady does; not while escorting. I’ve met ‘ladies of the night’ with more integrity and values than people I know who have ‘normal’ jobs. Yes, you pay escorts to leave, but you are also paying for peace of mind.

I also don’t think men (or women) deserve to be demonized for occasionally getting their needs met from a third party. In an ideal world, we would all sit our partners down and tell them we have strayed, and that it didn’t mean anything. Honesty is always the best policy. But we don’t live in an ideal world. And if someone is going to stray, you’d rather they made it a business transaction than not.
One woman who would agree with me is my friend Tracey, a 40 something mum of two. She’s just caught her husband having an affair with a woman he met at a work conference. Not just that – she told me that she is now waiting for his decision whether to stay or go and start a new life with his new flame.
“I wish he’d been seeing an escort” she said glumly. “Then we wouldn’t be in this situation.” With an escort, there is no texting in the middle of the night, no dreamy ‘I wish I was with so-and-so..’ and certainly no ‘if you don’t leave your wife for me now I will call her up and tell her EVERYTHING.’ No dramatic phone calls on Xmas Day, no sitting in a car outside your house, and absolutely no naked photos in the press.
Escorts don’t want to run off with your husband. They don’t even remember his name. It really is, just a job. Most of us have careers, schools, boyfriends, girlfriends; a life. We don’t want to ruin someone else’s.


Tuesday, June 9, 2020

Looks Do Not Matter To Me

The response I get the most when I tell people I am a high-class escort is actually not so much of a question… more of action.. A wrinkled up nose. Eurgh! What about the fat ugly men? How on earth could you get naked with them?
It often makes me smile because that’s exactly what I used to think before I dipped my toe in the industry of course.
When you’ve seen as many naked bodies as I have, when you have been intimate with as many men (I’m not just talking sex here, but conversation), your perception changes and so does your judgment. I used to be so snobby and pouty about the men in my life having the right arms, a nice mouth, and thick hair.

They had to be wearing nice clothes and cool shoes (nothing too pointy). And sure, while those things are important, they’re not a deal-breaker. What I have learn’t as a high-class escort is that no matter how unattractive someone’s body is, it is what lies inside that matters. The body is a mere shell and quite often the most beautiful people are hidden in a deformed, or just plain and ugly bodies.
I know I am not exactly giving you groundbreaking news here, but sometimes we all need reminding, especially in our society of perfectly plastic and manufactured bodies.
My favorite clients have quite often been what one would call unattractive and some of my rudest and arrogant clients are quite often the tall, tanned, and handsome ones. And believe me, one can always, ALWAYS find something nice about someone, be it their hands, their feet or their eyelashes.
So dear readers, that is why I can happily spend an hour or two naked with ‘fat ugly men’ and enjoy myself.
But pointy shoes are still a no-no. Sorry.